So frustrated

I received a phone call yesterday from my son's day care. Of course I was already concerned because the number came up as "blocked" on my cell phone. So as I answer it, I'm nervous to see who the person is on the other line.

I am informed that my child was bit in school by another child. That he was ok, ate lunch, and was napping. The staff member kept saying, "I just wanted to give you a heads up." So, in my mind, I'm thinking that it was a little bite, no worries. At no time was I informed that my son would need medical attention, or that he was in any type of distress to the point of needing to be picked up. 

So, after the phone conversation, I called my husband to let him know that "A" was bitten by another child, but seems to be ok. After he got the little details I had, he made a joke and said, "I hope he doesn't get a fever. He may turn into a Walker." This was funny since we are both into "The Walking Dead" on AMC.  After a few jokes, we get off the phone and continue on with our day.

I get home, and as soon as I close the door behind me my husband says, "Now, don't freak out..." I look for my son and start calling his name.  Soon I hear his little feet running over the kitchen floor with him excitedly saying, "MaMa, MaMa."  I look down and ask him where he got hurt. He holds up the wrong finger and there are no marks. I am relieved that this kid didn't leave a mark. Then my husband informs me it's the other hand.

So, I look at the injured finger and the anger just starts rising up. I am so angry that my child was bit so badly that it left 2 distinct teeth marks. Not to say that my son needed medical attention - no stitches were needed - but, my son's finger was badly chomped on. After cleaning it out, removing a flap of skin, and putting topical cream on it I slowly started to feel less angry. But then it got to the point where you could tell he was uncomfortable with the band aid and each time I touched his finger, he cried out "mama."

This morning when I drop "A" back to day care I brought neosporin and bandaids for him. Went to get the medical slip and there were none in the folder. Director comes out to assist and I just want to scream. Not necessarily at her, nothing personal, but I just hate to see such carelessness, or lack of attention in the classroom. Now of course I was informed that the biting child just walked up to my son, grabbed his finger and bit it. There was no other interaction besides that. But what kills me is one of the teachers gave me some lame ass excuse on what happened, the exact same excuse that was used 6 weeks ago when my son got scratched under his eye!! Since it was the same lame excuse, it leads me to believe that it is the same child that has injured my son for the 2nd time in 2 months. 

Once my blood stops boiling, I will calmly ask the school what actions were taken to address this behavior with the biting child's parents. I'm not expecting anything to be done, nor should anything huge need to be done. I understand the parenting role and who knows, tables may be turned and I may have the biting child one day. But, I need to know what policies are in place to correct aggressive behaviors. And I need to make sure that this biting and scratching child is keeping his distance from mine. 

I'm not trying to be that parent to teach their kid how to uppercut another kid!! (totally joking because I don't believe in using violence to stop violence - unless it's self defense, which is just not possible for a 17 month old to understand).